For many of us our brokenness stems from unresolved childhood issues. I’m sure you can probably even remember the very person or people who made you feel broken. I, myself can personally attest to this feeling and equate that brokenness to feeling like a daddyless daughter. While my dad was around physically, he was just that! This lack of emotional connection we shared forced me to harbor a lot of resentment and struggle with internal battles I faced daily. For that, I know that the situations I encountered and/or relationships I was in and allowed myself to stay stuck in had every bit to do with my brokenness. Although I admired my mom for her resilience and the way in which she raised my brother and I, I resented her for allowing my dad to do some of the things he did. For this reason, I often found strength and guidance in others, particularly other women I encountered.
I’m sure we can all remember the women who have positively influenced our lives. They may have given us tough love, given us lessons on life, encouraged or supported our future endeavors or simply saved us from going astray. These women have given us inspiration and guidance. Women who possess such qualities are crucial to shaping young girls into strong and positive women themselves. Without such role models, broken girls can often be led down a path of destruction, as in the case with a famous boxer’s daughter (I won’t name). If you’ve seen the social media posts about her, then you know that for quite some time now she has been involved with a young rapper who is known for his domestic violence issues and his degrading of young girls who are all obviously broken as well.
This past weekend this young lady was arrested for stabbing the mother of one of the rapper’s children. Hearing this news saddened me in more ways than one, as I unfortunately saw her spiraling for months. The power of a positive role model is real; girls can be exposed to both positive and negative experiences but will often emulate what they’re exposed to more, as in the case with this boxer’s daughter. Her dad found himself involved in domestic violence cases, and even publicly degraded the mother of his children on several occasions. It isn’t ironic that his daughter would get involved with a man who does the same and publicly displays a lack of respect for women! I won’t make excuses for her violence, but when looking at this girl’s mugshot I see sadness and simply a broken little girl who yes should receive consequences, but more importantly needs mental help and most importantly needs to be surrounded by women who are positive role models.
When little girls don’t grow up seeing women exude confidence, leadership and accomplishments they often don’t envision this for themselves. This girl proved that you can grow up with all the material things in the world but when you don’t grow up knowing how to love and hold yourself in the highest regard then you find yourself in situations like this. For this reason it’s important that daddies love their daughters and give them the connections and love they need so they’re not growing up looking for this in men as ultimately they can fall into the hands of the wrong man! On the other hand, little girls more than ever need women who are not perfect role models but positive role models. By no means do I mean women who’ve never made mistakes or weren’t broken little girls themselves, but women who are resilient, career driven, successful and above all not dependent on men!
Yes many women find themselves in situations that aren’t practical, but ideally little girls who have positive role models feel more inclined to do right by themselves and ultimately have the capacity to get out of such situations. Thus, they are often the most successful! As a mom of two daughters I am definitely hugging them tighter, and I’ve become more conscious of what I model for them. They’ve encouraged me to go harder and understand that I am in a position to influence, lead and empower young ladies. My hope is that all influential women be encouraged to be that change agent that will help break the cycle of broken little girls growing up to become broken women, but rather creating a race of successful, independent and empowered women that are loved and love themselves wholeheartedly.
Author Unknown:“The greatest determinant of young girls’ future success is their access to a tribe of strong women that are visionaries and capable role models that can help them unleash their talents, use their voice for good and create their own successful path.”