Parents all over the country right now are juggling homeschooling, working daily (whether from home or going to and from), taking care of the household and everything else in between. The going has definitely gotten tough and if you’re a single parent like myself then I’m sure you are feeling more of a heavy load as you’re doing it ALL on your own! When the quarantine first began I thought it was going to be great; working from the comfort of my own home, and spending some quality time with my kids. However, by week 4 I was over it! I was cooking three meals a day, jumping on conference calls nonstop, helping my kids with their school work, cleaning up after them all day, and playing referee during their royal rumbles.
I was staring at a computer screen all day and hearing mommy, mommy all day. I was drained! Although I was getting on weekly calls with my therapist which aided in a shift in my mindset and calmed my anxiety, I still felt like I was losing myself with all that I was doing. I needed some time to myself, yet my mommy guilt was at an all time high. I felt like a bad mom for even thinking that I needed a break from everything. So what do you do when the going gets tough? Keep going right? Wrong! I had to realize that I’m not a machine and in order to be my best for myself and my kids I needed to pause. I was crashing and burning, so I threw on my oxygen mask in an effort to save myself.
In an effort to combat those feelings of angst I started focusing on a new self-care regimen:
- Most importantly, everyday I wake up an hour earlier than my kids to ensure I have my alone time for prayer and I’m able to workout without distractions.
- I started scheduling time throughout the week to just be alone (whether it’s just sitting reading a book for an hour, listening to music, sitting in a quiet space to meditate or to take a hot bubble bath with soft music -uninterrupted).
- Quarantining with kids all day will have you longing for adult conversation, so I definitely stay connected to my friends. Those connections keep me sane and entertained.
- I’ve created a more consistent schedule to help balance my home and work related tasks; I’m no longer struggling with prioritizing what to do and when to do it.
- I’ve also become better at being kind to myself knowing that everything won’t be done in a day, and every meal doesn’t have to be home cooked 🙂
- Lastly, I end the day with gratitude journaling, which is one of my favorite forms of journaling and forces me to continue to count my blessings.
If you too are trying to balance it all, remember to take some time just for you!
Renee_theblogger_: There’s no doubt that mommy guilt is real and mothering during this quarantine hasn’t made it any easier! However, you’re entitled to focus on you and just you at times. It’s not being selfish, it’s what makes you human. If you’re not feeling good; mind, body and spirit then those feelings of angst will eventually spill over into how you’re mothering your children and other areas of your life. Take care and be the best version of you!